I tend to stay so busy when I am at home - start a load of laundry, cook the next meal, wash dishes, check off another chore, do the next thing, and then the next, and then the next - that I often feel disconnected from other people in the house. It is very difficult for me to STOP. To make matters worse, when I get on the go-go-go treadmill, and others don't, I begin to resent the fact that I am always working while they get to rest.
I tell myself - and then begin to believe - two lies:
1. I have to do all of this work myself.
2. Others do not appreciate what I do. (If they did, they wouldn't be so chill, right?!)
Now, I know better...I really do. Nobody in my family insists that I go-go-go. And nobody is going to get upset if I stop.
I create this stress myself, and then I get irritated with the others because I'm so stressed - that makes no sense, people!
So this weekend, I did a little exercise: instead of getting on the go-go treadmill, and then getting irritated with those who chose not to get on the go-go treadmill with me, I decided to ignore my natural tendencies and follow the example of those more chill than myself.
Instead of jumping up right after dinner and tackling the dishes in the sink, I followed everyone else to the living area.
Instead of doing laundry, sweeping, or cleaning the bathroom while others were working a crossword or scrolling through Pinterest, I read a book.
When the rest of the family picked up their cell phones, I pulled out my laptop.
I do not have words to describe how difficult and uncomfortable this has been for me.
Do I feel all chill and relaxed after an entire weekend of chilling and relaxing? NO. I feel like I'm developing an ulcer. This not-working thing is wearing me out!
I need some encouragement, folks. Learning to chill - does it get easier with practice?
4 weeks ago